Focus for instead of against

We so often put our focus on whatever we don't want. We join groups against. We talk about our problems. We resist where we don't want to be. Sometimes I think we loose track of what we do want in focusing all our attention on what we don't. 

What you focus on grows. 

It's as simple as that. When you focus on what you're against you'll get more of that kind. So what do you want? What are you for? How can you grow whatever you are in favor of? How can you focus all of your attention in the direction of your dreams and all that is working in your life? 

I'm not saying we should grace over whatever is difficult in our lives. When we're in crisis we need to deal. But most of the time we're not in crisis, we're just living our everyday life. Where's your focus on all of these days? For or against? 

With all my love,

Helena 

Letting people see the darkness

As you probably know if you read these posts regularly, one of my themes of development right now is self-compassion. Something made the insight of what it practically means land in me a few weeks ago. After one of those meaningful insights there always a re-orientation happening in the weeks following. It's as if everything needs to be looked at again but from a new perspective. 

Where my weakness lies I don't want to let others in because that's where I can't love myself. And where I can't love myself I find it unlikely that anyone else would. This is a real dilemma since no one can show me I'm lovable until I give them a chance to love me everywhere and I find it hard to let anyone in where I don't love myself.

I have a strong inkling this is one of the main themes of my next book. I'll let you in on my progress and hopefully, I'll also let you in to my weakness.

With all my love,

Helena 

The cure for a busy mind

Everyone has about the same amount of thoughts in a day; somewhere around 65 000 of them. Yet, some people feel constantly overwhelmed by their monkey mind and a sense of no control over what's going on in there. What if the difference is only the quality of thought, not the amount? 

If your thoughts are mostly positive, constructive and light you probably don't experience the same overwhelm as if they're negative, destructive and dark, right? If this is the case, how could we lean more towards the lighter thoughts? 

I think meditation is one of the best tools there is for this kind of work. By regular meditation you train your mind to observe what's going on instead of getting kidnapped by them constantly. When you first observe you can also train to make conscious decisions on what kinds of thoughts to follow and which ones to let go of. 

What do you think? Does this reasoning make sense to you? 

With all my love,

Helena 

Heaven and hell is right here

What if heaven and hell is nothing but a mind construct? What if they're both part of the human experience? What if we are so afraid to go to hell that we create hell right here? 

Some say religions are for people who don't want to go to hell and spirituality are for those who's already been. - Rob Bell 

This rings so true to me. I believe we can create heaven or hell right here. It's not about our circumstances, it's about how we perceive our circumstances. I gave up on religion partly because of the concept of hell. I don't think anyone deserves to go there, but I do believe that some people create it for themselves in this lifetime. For a while they drag others into their personal hell, but it's up to every individual whether they want to stay there or not. 

Heaven is right here. That's where I choose to live. 

With all my love,

Helena 

I asked for a human experience

I believe I was part of the decision of coming here. To this earth. To this experience. At this time. It was a deliberate decision from my soul to go here now to learn what my soul needs to learn. To grow and expand. 

And in that process, I specifically asked for a human experience. 

Humans have flaws. Humans have raging emotions. Humans have fears and egos and judgements. I asked for all of it. Because I wanted to see if I could transcend. Not avoid, transcend. That's a big difference. 

And even though I feel myself evolving everyday (though sometimes it might feel like I'm going backwards) I'm still human and that's what I'm here to experience. 

There are no enlighten people, there are only more and more enlightened moments. And in between those moments, I'm happy with the bumpy ride that is this human experience. 

With all my love,

Helena

Behind every negative behavior hides a fear

Back to the basics, there is only love and fear, and fear is not real.

People that are happy with themselves, feel loved and valued, live in accordance with their values and take good care of themselves have no reason to behave poorly towards another human being. That's the truth. And the same goes for you. And me. 

Sure, sometimes we haven't slept well and so we snap at the bus driver. Or we haven't eaten in a while so leave our partner with a mean comment. But if we go to the root of who we are and why we're here; we want to do good. And we want to be good. To others. To ourselves. To the world.

If we fail with this it's because we're afraid of something. What's your fear? 

With all my love,
Helena  

The debate about what's healthy

If you ask ten people what they think is healthy you will probably get ten different answers. It's a highly subjective thing. Or it's a media thing. Or it's a current research thing. Or it's a trend thing. Whatever, it varies. 

To me, health is love. It's common sense and it's individual. 

Hating the way your body look and therefor dragging yourself to the gym to do something you don't enjoy is not loving, therefore not healthy. 

Blaming your body for its flaws and punishing it with shutting off its signals (your symptoms) with suppressants is not loving, therefore not healthy. 

Loving you and loving the tool you got to express yourself here (your body) is the way to a healthy life. 

Listen for the signs. Ask for the guidance. And love what is. No matter what is. Because the opposite will never take you to wherever you want to go. You can't force yourself to true holistic health, but you can definitely flow there, with love. 

With all my love,

Helena 

I write to reciprocate the flow

I've been blogging for six years now. Patiently, playfully, persistently. Sometimes it's been everyday, sometimes a couple of times a week and since a few years three posts a week. Writing, writing, writing. 

If you've been following me for a while you know that the topics vary but it's mostly sharing recent lessons from my own life or just plain reflections. From time to time I'm behind in schedule and in those instances I feel a bit stressed about it but for the most part it's pure pleasure and it's just flow. I never read the posts after I've written them, I just let them go as they are. (So sorry for any misspellings or weird phrases)

I write to understand myself. I write to understand the world. I write because that's what I do. I write to reciprocate the flow of everything coming to me; inspiration, events, thoughts and ideas. I don't really know how not to write. 

However, on my quest for living in alignment and following flow and guidance I've decided to not be so strict with myself on the three posts a week thing. I don't want to live my life out of should and I don't want to force anything in my business. Maybe the schedule will stay the same, maybe it'll shift from week to week. I don't know yet, that's sort of the point. 

Anyhow, just wanted to let you in on my thoughts around this. I would love to hear yours! What do you like about the blog? What would you want to see more or less of? Is the schedule important to you? 

Til next time!
With all my love,
Helena