Share, share, share

We are a species used to live in tribes. Human beings have been around for about 50 000 years but it’s only in the last 10 000 years that we would gather in larger groups than 150 or so. In these giants groups of people that we now create in companies and in our society it’s really easy to disappear in the crowd. But we need real human connection, we all need to be seen, heard and valued.

You will stand out from the crowd when you show your real self. When you share of yourself and your story. That’s how we connect.

I meet so many people who feel so lonely and isolated. Who don’t have anyone to share their life and their struggles with. If only you would all find each other and realize that you’re not alone in feeling lonely. We all do that. But there’s an antidote and that’s sharing. Sharing of our lives. And when you start others will follow.

Sure, there’s a risk that people won’t get you. That’s okay. It might hurt for a bit but you’ll get past it, and it will be worth it.

So, please share. Of yourself, your talents and gifts, of your stories and your pain. Share yourself with the world and you’ll find that your not alone at all. We’re all there, being human with you.

With all my love,

Helena

What's easy in ease is so difficult when things are difficult

Life really is 10% of what happens to us and 90% how we react to and deal with it. I believe this and it’s my own-lived experience.

But the confirmation bias in our minds can play tricks on us. It means that if we’ve made up our mind that everything is working out for us and that life is good, then that’s what our mind will go looking for proof to. And on the opposite, if you believe that life is out to get you and that you just don’t have it in you to create a good life for yourself, well, that’s what your mind will be looking for. And ultimately, that’s the reality you’ll manifest.

That’s why what's easy in ease is so, god damn, hard when things are difficult. Because when you’re in pain you’re looking at the world with that lens. And when you’re in love with life, love is all you see.

So, how do we get around this? Well, your confirmation bias is based on the belief you’re holding. And beliefs are just thoughts we keep repeating. So when you change the words you change your world. And it would really be this easy when in ease. But it isn’t all that easy when things are difficult, are they?

I don’t have a definitive answer to how we change our thoughts when things are difficult because it feels so freaking hard. But I do know this; this too shall pass. And whatever you are learning right now, will be a gift you’ll get to enjoy in the future. I promise you that. I promise me that.

With all my love,

Helena

Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?

Brendon Burchard asks these questions to himself every night and I think they are really powerful. They came to him in a near death experience, and even though it's sad that that's what it takes to finally get it, we can be wise enough to learn from others experiences. 

First off, though, I think it's important to define what the words mean to you, personally. When do you feel most alive? What ingredients does a life well lived have to you? 

How do you define love? When do you experience love? You know, love isn't anything anyone else can give us, it's an emotion that is evoked in us by different experiences or people. What evokes the feeling of love in you? In what circumstances and with whom? How do you share your love with the world?

What does contribution look like to you? When do you feel like you matter? What days feel really meaningful to you? 

I know these are some really big questions, but you know me, that's where I dwell. So, give yourself some space to reflect on what this means to you and ask yourself: Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter? 

With all my love,

Helena

Core Desired Feelings in action

I’m standing in my bathroom, brushing teets and looking at my core desired feelings on my bathroom mirror. Faith. Joy. Community. Alignment. Authenticity. What can I do today to get to feel the way I most want to feel?

This is how I start my everyday. Core desired feelings in mind when deliberately planning my day.

Faith - my morning practice, starting with gratitude for what I have and by meditating and listening inwards.

Joy - whenever I get too serious I take a dance break or watch something funny on Youtube.

Community - I make sure I share my everyday life with people that I feel safe with. I invest in my relationships and try to contribute with my light wherever I go. And share my darkness when I need to get it out from the shadow.

Alignment - before action. It’s written everywhere in my productivity planner. Because it’s my absolute experience that whatever I share and create in alignment gives love ripples everywhere for both me and the people affected by me. When out of alignment I deal with what brought me out of alignment to get back into it.

Authenticity - I try to share as vulnerably as I can. Both online and in the in the real world. Or both are real to me. I wanna live my life close to my heart and I listen to others with my whole being.

Here I am again, before bed, in front of my bathroom mirror, brushing teeth. How has this day been? Well, the more of my core desired feelings I’ve created the better the day. It’s as simple as that. Because life is nothing but a long string of moments patched together by time. And we can create so many magical moments in a day, by being aware of the way we want to feel and how to go about creating those feelings in our lives.

If you wanna know more about this process (are in Stockholm and understand Swedish) check out this retreat that I’ve created in November. It’ll be a magical weekend!

With all my love,

Helena

What if the door closing is a good thing?

I believe we have two choices in our life’s perspective. Sure, there’s always grey areas but in this case it’s a pretty much either or. Either you think there’s a meaning to your life and what happens in it or you think everything is random. It’s a choice you make. You’ll never get the definite answer but the choice you make will definitely affect every day of your life.

What if rejection is protection? What if what you wanted wasn’t actually for you and you’re being guided to something else, better for you?

What if the thing not working out as you may have wished taught you something invaluable that will benefit you forever?

What if the person walking in the door right now is there to teach you something about life and love?

I’ve decided to make meaning of everything happening in my life. I trust that even if things don’t always go as planned I’m deeply taken care of and things are working out for the best outcome for everyone. Whenever I try to manifest anything or pray for what I want I always end with “this or something better”. And I believe that what shows up is better.

This doesn’t mean we can’t be bummed out or mad about things falling apart. It just means that we choose to believe that there is a higher purpose, even when I can’t see it.

What choice have you made in your life? How does that choice make you feel? You know that you can always choose again, in every moment.

With all my love,

Helena

Infinite patience gives immediate results

That’s a quote from A Course of Miracles. Because when you know it’s yours to come, you have all the patience you need to wait forever. It’s the same as what you cannot change you can accept and what you have accepted has already changed.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

I’m not a very patient person. I just created a technical mess on my website. And instead of taking a pause, breathing for a bit and maybe sleeping on it I asked 10 people simultaneously for help. Because, you know, NOW is the only time.

But what if we could just trust that everything comes in divine timing. That we are taken care of. That we can create all that we dream of, otherwise it would not have been planted in our psyche.

I’m working on this. Patience. Thinking that breathing is a good start. And trusting. And focusing on my circle of influence and letting go of what I can’t control.

What are your best tools for building patience?

With all my love,

Helena

Sometimes action is what you need

Clarity comes from engagement, not thought.

- Marie Forleo

Analysis paralysis is a real thing. Sometimes we need to get going, start, trial and error, to get the clarity that we’re looking for.

As you know I’m all about alignment before action. As in not working on your most important manifestations before you’re in the state of feeling what you want to create more of. Because, you attract what you are. And when you’re a mess and get into action you’re more likely to attract more messiness. When you act from a space of gratitude you’re much more likely to attract more things to be grateful for.

But still, there are times to act when we’re unclear. Confused. Feel weak. Not aligned. Because it’s the action that gives you clarity, direction and power. To me, there’s a difference.

I remember a poem from my childhood that read:

Guide me on my way Lord, I need not see the whole path, just give me light enough to see the next step.

I loved that then and I still do. I don’t know what will happen in the future, all I can focus on is the next step. And it’s usually movement and action. If I just keep putting one foot in front of the other, the path will appear, one step at a time. That’s all I need.

It doesn’t happen sitting still on my but, waiting for everything to be clear, waiting for everything to be swell before I act. Sometimes I need to act for it to be so. In order to get back into alignment. Don’t get busy for the sake of busyness, sometimes stillness is what we need. But I do know, if you listen in, you will know the difference.

With all my love,

Helena

I love helping you

How come we think we’re so special. Or, it’s just me (although that’s not my experience). Why do I think I’m so special. When people reach out for help and I get the opportunity to support them, in whatever shape they need supporting, big or small, it makes me feel good. How come I so often believe that’s not the case for someone else helping or supporting me?

Sure, when people ask for our time, energy or resources, we need to check in first. Do I have enough right now to share? But honestly, I most often do and I even get energized from having helped someone out. It’s a win-win.

I’ve had a tendency (look at that, past tense, as in not any more) to isolate instead of reaching out. Let’s all, collectively, stop that right now. So much of what’s painful in our world today is because of lack of connection and support and too much loneliness.

I love helping you. So I’m gonna believe that you can love supporting me too. And if it’s not a good time for you right now, I trust you to say no. And I trust myself enough to not take that personally and remember that we live in an abundant universe, and so, there’s enough to go around.

It’s an honor to help you.

With all my love,

Helena