judgement

Accept judgement and criticism

Most people don’t really enjoy judgement or criticism. A lot of us are people pleasers that only want others to like us. Which, we also know, is practically impossible. But still we try, to fix, to adjust, to please. All because we don’t want the judgement or criticism.

But what if we could just accept that judgement and criticism is part of life? That it will happen to us whether we fight our whole lives to avoid it or we simply live our lives regardless of what other people might think?

It’s usually the resistance to whatever scares us that ends up hurting us more. Because what we resists persists. Which means, acceptance gives us freedom. Acceptance increases the possibility of the icky feeling moving through faster, and not lingering too long. Also, if we could accept judgement and criticism as part of life endless possibilities open up, we can do whatever we want!

Also, what other people think of you is none of your business, it’s their business. And it usually tells you a lot more about them, and how they’re suffering, than it tells you anything new about you.

Don’t be afraid of people not liking you. Some people just don’t. And they won’t. That’s okay. Focus on the ones that do love you, they deserve all of your attention.

With all of my love,

Helena

I asked for a human experience

I believe I was part of the decision of coming here. To this earth. To this experience. At this time. It was a deliberate decision from my soul to go here now to learn what my soul needs to learn. To grow and expand. 

And in that process, I specifically asked for a human experience. 

Humans have flaws. Humans have raging emotions. Humans have fears and egos and judgements. I asked for all of it. Because I wanted to see if I could transcend. Not avoid, transcend. That's a big difference. 

And even though I feel myself evolving everyday (though sometimes it might feel like I'm going backwards) I'm still human and that's what I'm here to experience. 

There are no enlighten people, there are only more and more enlightened moments. And in between those moments, I'm happy with the bumpy ride that is this human experience. 

With all my love,

Helena

Every feeling fully felt is bliss

Joseph Campbell said that. Oh, I so agree. Suffering comes when we resist. Which we do. We're human. 

What if we could just be with our anger, without judgement, resistance or regret. What if we could just feel our sadness. Deep. Raw. True. Shame can be truly transforming if we look at it and dare to share. 

I woke up the other day with anger bubbling from within. I meditated on it. I felt it through my body with yoga. I wrote it out. And eventually, I just let it be. No resistance. It's okay to be angry. And not fully understand why. I forgave myself in every moment of anger. Over and over again. And after a while, it transformed. The day ended up being full of real conversation, creativity and beautiful coincidences. 

I promised myself years ago, to never smother a belly laugh. For most, it's easier to fully feel, so called, positive emotions, but still, I used to suppress my laughter, when I didn't feel it was "appropriate". Today, I cry in public. Both from belly laughing and from sadness. 

With all my love,
Helena