Behind every negative behavior hides a fear

Back to the basics, there is only love and fear, and fear is not real.

People that are happy with themselves, feel loved and valued, live in accordance with their values and take good care of themselves have no reason to behave poorly towards another human being. That's the truth. And the same goes for you. And me. 

Sure, sometimes we haven't slept well and so we snap at the bus driver. Or we haven't eaten in a while so leave our partner with a mean comment. But if we go to the root of who we are and why we're here; we want to do good. And we want to be good. To others. To ourselves. To the world.

If we fail with this it's because we're afraid of something. What's your fear? 

With all my love,
Helena  

The debate about what's healthy

If you ask ten people what they think is healthy you will probably get ten different answers. It's a highly subjective thing. Or it's a media thing. Or it's a current research thing. Or it's a trend thing. Whatever, it varies. 

To me, health is love. It's common sense and it's individual. 

Hating the way your body look and therefor dragging yourself to the gym to do something you don't enjoy is not loving, therefore not healthy. 

Blaming your body for its flaws and punishing it with shutting off its signals (your symptoms) with suppressants is not loving, therefore not healthy. 

Loving you and loving the tool you got to express yourself here (your body) is the way to a healthy life. 

Listen for the signs. Ask for the guidance. And love what is. No matter what is. Because the opposite will never take you to wherever you want to go. You can't force yourself to true holistic health, but you can definitely flow there, with love. 

With all my love,

Helena 

I write to reciprocate the flow

I've been blogging for six years now. Patiently, playfully, persistently. Sometimes it's been everyday, sometimes a couple of times a week and since a few years three posts a week. Writing, writing, writing. 

If you've been following me for a while you know that the topics vary but it's mostly sharing recent lessons from my own life or just plain reflections. From time to time I'm behind in schedule and in those instances I feel a bit stressed about it but for the most part it's pure pleasure and it's just flow. I never read the posts after I've written them, I just let them go as they are. (So sorry for any misspellings or weird phrases)

I write to understand myself. I write to understand the world. I write because that's what I do. I write to reciprocate the flow of everything coming to me; inspiration, events, thoughts and ideas. I don't really know how not to write. 

However, on my quest for living in alignment and following flow and guidance I've decided to not be so strict with myself on the three posts a week thing. I don't want to live my life out of should and I don't want to force anything in my business. Maybe the schedule will stay the same, maybe it'll shift from week to week. I don't know yet, that's sort of the point. 

Anyhow, just wanted to let you in on my thoughts around this. I would love to hear yours! What do you like about the blog? What would you want to see more or less of? Is the schedule important to you? 

Til next time!
With all my love,
Helena

Why do we need science?

How come we've become a society getting high on science? Why do we always crave it? Why do we trust it so much? How come we need to wait for science until we try something new? 

I know I'm generalizing now but I find it's interesting that the worst thing sometimes seems to be claiming something to be true without having science to back it up. 

We used to know how to heal. Many indigenous tribes and cultures still do. We used to follow what felt good before what proved true in a science report. We all have all the wisdom we need inside of us. Where did we loose it? 

If it makes you feel good go for it. If it doesn't hurt you or someone else, give it a try. We're not giving ourselves credit for what we already know or maybe for what we just need to remember. What if you would trust your instinct or intuition a little more today? What would change for you? 

With all my love,

Helena 

Self-compassion when you don't like yourself

We all have good and bad days. I find myself needing to remind myself that that's okay, also for me. I'm not that special. And on those bad days, I find that my greatest tool is self-compassion. It's interesting to me that this is quite a new realization and I'm okay with that. 

I've been really good at loving myself when life's smooth and easy but I have a tendency to judge and criticize myself when I'm not in a good place. Isn't that funny? And not very fruitful. 

Love me the most when I deserve it the least for that's when I need it the most. 

I grew up with this saying but I had forgotten about it and it's just recently that I truly realized that it also applies to myself. And the same goes for you. 

Are you good at this? Loving yourself the most when you feel you deserve it the least? Love is always the answer. It's the light at the end of the tunnel. Grateful to always be learning. 

With all my love,

Helena 

Magical thinking

We're so caught up in our logical thinking that we easily forget that that's just a glimpse of it all. Did you know that only 5% is conscious thinking and knowing, the 95% are in the subconscious. Just imagine what's going on there and beyond.

If you experience mystery, try to enjoy it rather than understand. If you see magic in your day, take it in and relax with it without trying to make sense of it all. 

Life's not logical. The universe is so much more than our logical minds could ever grasp. The more you understand the more you will understand that you don't understand. It's all good. Let go of the logical thinking and rely on the magical.

With all my love,

Helena 

The choice is always yours

You always have a choice to decide how you want to react. You can always choose your perception.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Viktor E. Frankl
 

Do you realize what potential lies in this? You never have to be a victim. I know, as humans, sometimes we do, but we don't need to stay there for long. Choose what you want to do with that space. It's never about the circumstances. There's plenty of people who has it all but still kill themselves because of their misery and more people with nothing who are perfectly happy with their life. 

We live in a society and time that tries to convince us that it's about the external stuff. Don't buy it. It's not true. 

With all my love,

Helena 

If time traveling was possible

We all have all the answers we need inside. We very rarely need advice really, we just need to listen in and sometimes help to sort our thoughts to make sense of it all. That's why I think coaching is such an amazing tool. I witness magic with my clients all the time! 

But building on the belief that you do have all your answers inside you, what if you would be able to take advice from an older and wiser version of yourself? Say that your 110 year old self would come back to today and sit down with you for 20 minutes. What do you think you would say to yourself today? What advice would you give? What would you want yourself to know today? 

One day you will be that person, 110 or close to and you will know a lot more than you know today. Will you be wiser for it? What are you currently working on that you think will be perfectly easy for your older self? 

Taking advice from yourself can come in many different forms. Enjoy this small exercise if it intrigues you! 

With all my love,

Helena