The concept of time

Everyone is talking about the lack of time. I’m not completely sure that everyone that talks about it actually are experiencing the lack though. There’s some sort of correlation between you being important and you having a lack of time. And so, I think more people talk about their lack of time than actually having it.

Which might actually give you a real feeling of lack of time because what you keep thinking will eventually become a belief and so if you constantly repeat to yourself that you don’t have time you will soon start to believe it.

And yet, linear time is a concept we’ve just invented and then started treating as law. But time is not time is not time. We’ve all experienced an hour passing by in a second and the same amount of time feeling like a lifetime. Time flies when you’re having fun is a popular saying. It’s my experience that time slows down the more present I am. And you probably get more things done when doing them in presence than when you’re shattered.

About a year ago I labeled my four “times” related to my worklife; sprint, shattered, creative flow and free. Sprint is when I fully focused finish a task in a short amount of time, like a pomodoro. Shattered is when I do a little bit of this and little bit of that, checking social media, chatting to a friend, getting coffee, checking emails… I’m really good at both sprints and shattered time.

What I’m missing is creative flow, when I cancel all distractions and give myself all the right circumstances to go deep on a specific task. I’m also not very good at totally free time as I’m a passionate entrepreneur always being “on” somehow everyday. I’m working on creating more creative flow and free time for myself alongside my sprints and shattered time.

My experience of the different qualities are very different. As is time spent in an intellectual space very different from time spend in my body. Time is not a fixed concept. Not an absolute. It varies. And so, there’s no lack of time, there’s just time. And it’s what we make of it that matters. We have a choice in every moment.

Where are you spending your time? Are you present as it passes?

With all my love,

Helena

Expanding time

Are you one of the many running around the hamster wheel longing for more time? Always in a loss for it? Never getting enough done on the limited time you have? 

What if you are creating your own lacking by affirming it? What if time would expand for you if you would just believe it could? What if time is a concept and a fantasy that we all have just agreed on? 

I experience sometimes. Time expanding for me. The key for me is always presence. Intense presence. When I'm present with the moment it seems to expand for me. It lasts forever. Isn't that the truth anyway? The present moment will always be right there for you so if more moments, which multiplied will turn into more time, is what you want, all you have to do is be with it. 

Some say that time flies when you're having fun and it stops when you're bored. I say, time expands with presence. When you stop guilt-tripping about all the things you didn't do or worry about the things you won't have time to do, but stay with what is, you will always be provided with the time you need. 

Life happens in the moments. Time is just a concept of moments multiplied. Focus on the essentials. 

With all my love,

Helena 

Change your expectations for appreciation

Christmas is upon us. So much pressure on only a few days. Things don't always go as planned, or  as we might have wished for. The food taste bad. Someone got sick. There's conflict in the middle of celebrations. The kids are unhappy with their gifts. You feel extra lonely. There's more rain than snow. That annoying relative is more annoying than usual. You have a headache. 

Sorry to be a bummer day before Christmas, but hey, just trying to rid your expectations. Skip them. Trade them for appreciation. That smile on a loved ones face. The piece of chocolate that just melted in your mouth. The lights in the dark. The wonderful smell of childhood memories. A warm hug. The stillness before everyone arrives. That song you love. 

It might all be there, at the same time. You decide where you put your focus. Change your expectations for appreciation.

With all my love,

Helena