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Don't let your ego take over

We all have ego. It's neither good or bad, it just is. But we don't want our ego to run the show all together. 

I did a high profile project recently. Right after I felt a sting of disappointment with myself. My ego laser focusing on the details I could have done differently. The things I should or shouldn't have said. So tiring. I realized this was my ego being caught up in a loop, chewing on its favorite chew toy, my performance and perfection. 

So, I deliberately chose to change focus. What was the feedback from the audience? How did my client feel about my delivery? Did I help someone? And foremost, did I do my best from my current circumstances? Was I aligned with my intuition? Was I acting out of love? Genuine appreciation, happy, yes, yes yes, yes. 

Your ego is there and will always be, but practice witnessing it, and, if it's all you learn to do, don't believe every word it says! 

With all my love,

Helena 

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What about you?

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It's easy to get lost in other people's wrong-doing, but it's a tricky place to go because we can't really do anything about it. Sure, we can give the other person some feedback and we can ask for a change, but we can't make the change happen if the other person don't want to change. 

A much more empowering choice is to look back at ourselves, where we have all the power. If you're annoyed at someone being pushy in the subway, how are you acting in the subway? If you dislike how someone else is treating you when they're stressed, how are you acting when you're stressed? If you are looking for a person to brighten your day, how are you brightening someone else's day? 

To take responsibility for what we can actually change is not about blaming ourselves or validating another's every behavior, it's about empowering where we can. Be the person you want to see in the world. Put all your energy into being the best person you can be and you'll soon see the world change around you. 

With all my love,

Helena