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My stop doing list for November

I read this idea at Danielle Laportes blog just a while ago and I've been pondering what mine would look like. I really love lists and nothing is more satisfying to me than ticking off the box. My task is done! 

But the art of prioritizing asks us to also make conscious choices as to what not to do. Especially when we keep stacking things to do. So, since I just made my activity list for November, and, yes, it's ambitious, here's my stop-doing-list to go with it. 

  • Get lost in social media (no more than 10 minutes three times a day)
  • Comparing myself to other people (this post summarizes it perfectly)
  • Snoozing (I know how much better I feel when I get to my meditation space right away)
  • Trying to help people who don't want my help 
  • Working with people I don't really like 
  • Looking for external validation to my internal progress 
  • Eating with distraction 
  • Trying to change other people 
  • Focusing on the lack in relationships that are tricky (focusing on the good parts will give me more of just that)
  • Getting into action before alignment 

So, there you have it. Ambitious this one as well, but also, so comforting to just read. What does your stop-doing list look like? 

With all my love,

Helena 

I know you know

I so often hear this from people; I don't know! Sometimes I counter with; What if I told you that you do know? Something shifts in their eyes, maybe just a small twinkle. 

We spend so much time searching outside of ourselves for the answers to our most pressing questions. Who am I? What am I supposed to do with my life? Should I do this or that? Is this person right for me? 

But, what are we looking for outside in the first place? Logical arguments? External validation? Other people's opinions? The mind thinks and the heart knows. So, stop thinking so much about it, surrender a little and listen in instead.

Sometimes, when I propose to friends or coaching clients they do know, the most divine answer comes. The kind of answer that your mind wouldn't logically construct. The kind of answer that is truly heartfelt. Sometimes it doesn't work that fast. But it does work. You do have the answers inside. I know you know.

With all my love,

Helena