suffering

Every action creates a reaction

This is the law of the universe, we can't avoid it and we don't want to. We need to be aware. That for every action towards yourself or others, there will be a reaction.

If a painful reaction is neglected it might be like the hot potato that Glennon Melton so beautifully talks about. We treat pain as a hot potato, trying to pass it on to the other person when we're to scared to deal with our own pain.

Some people are the type that think they are really good at suppressing the reaction, with stress, suffering and, in the long run, disease as the consequence. 

We can't do anything about the laws of the universe but we can be aware of them and obey when needed. If you, or someone else, acts in a way that hurts you, deal with the reaction. Maybe you need to be extra kind to yourself and listen to the painful emotions. Maybe you need to scream into a pillow or hit something that don't hurt. Maybe you need to set up some really clear boundaries. 

And on the flip side, every loving action comes with a reaction of love. Remember this too. No loving act will ever go unnoticed. So, be aware, and make conscious choices about how you act and react. 

With all my love,

Helena

Suffering without catharsis is wasted pain

The quote is from Elizabeth Gilbert, one of my main mentors, and a interview she had with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday. They were discussing the hero's journey and the unavoidable change that comes from struggles in our lives. 

I do think that pain is inevitable and that suffering is optional. Optional, however, does not mean, it's very easy to move away from it. We are having a human experience, and so, we suffer. But both our pain and the suffering our resistance creates, come bearing a message. There is always a hidden treasure in pain. 

We get the lessons we need in life to evolve and change into the people we need to be to do what we need to do. If we resist the change, however, the same lesson will come again, but in a different shape. 

So, next time life serves you lemons, ask yourself this: How do I need to change right now? What do I need to learn? Then, be as diligent student as you can. Learn with curiosity. And remember, the only constant is change. 

With all my love,

Helena