Shame makes us isolate when the only antidote is to put our shame in the light. When we do it tends to dissolve or at least lighten.
Shame makes us feel as if we are wrong when guilts makes us feel as if we’ve done something wrong. Huge difference, you are never wrong even though you might have done something that needs mending.
Shame is one of the most uncomfortable feelings there is and so we try to avoid it at all cost. Suppressing shame will eat us up from the inside instead of letting it surface and move through us.
Shaming others is like passing on the hot potato of pain instead of sitting with our own pain. Shaming others is never the answer.
Don’t isolate because your shame tells you you’re a burden. You are not a burden.
Don’t mistake guilt for shame. You are not wrong.
Don’t avoid shame. You will never die from a feeling.
Don’t shame others. Feel your own pain and be gentler with yourself and the world.
Do share.
Do apologize for what you might have done wrong.
Do feel your feelings.
Do love.
With all my love,
Helena