Responsible for all of it

What would happen if you took full responsibility for everything in your life? 

Actions, reactions, thoughts and feelings. All of it. This doesn't mean that you take responsibility for anyone else's actions because that's not your responsibility, it means you take responsibility for your reactions to their actions. 

If someone did you wrong - how do you respond? It's actually not the other persons responsibility if you choose to carry resentment by not forgiving. Nor is it their responsibility if you choose to react by trying to get even. That's your responsibility and your choice. 

If you go through a rough time and get caught in victimhood and can't find your way out. Do you stay there and get bitter or do you get the help you need to get yourself out and back to your empowered self? 

I'm not saying any of this is easy, I'm just saying it's possible. And my claim is also that your life will improve when you make the conscious choice to always lean towards empowerment and out of victimhood. 

With all my love,

Helena 

Every action creates a reaction

This is the law of the universe, we can't avoid it and we don't want to. We need to be aware. That for every action towards yourself or others, there will be a reaction.

If a painful reaction is neglected it might be like the hot potato that Glennon Melton so beautifully talks about. We treat pain as a hot potato, trying to pass it on to the other person when we're to scared to deal with our own pain.

Some people are the type that think they are really good at suppressing the reaction, with stress, suffering and, in the long run, disease as the consequence. 

We can't do anything about the laws of the universe but we can be aware of them and obey when needed. If you, or someone else, acts in a way that hurts you, deal with the reaction. Maybe you need to be extra kind to yourself and listen to the painful emotions. Maybe you need to scream into a pillow or hit something that don't hurt. Maybe you need to set up some really clear boundaries. 

And on the flip side, every loving action comes with a reaction of love. Remember this too. No loving act will ever go unnoticed. So, be aware, and make conscious choices about how you act and react. 

With all my love,

Helena