joy

Your joy and service are the same

I once had the opportunity to ask one of my main mentors, Gabby Bernstein, about a paradox I was trying to get my head around. 

Some say you should focus you energy on the service of others and some say it should focus on what brings you joy - isn't there a contradiction? 

This is what she answered:

When you're in joy you are connected to source, that's why it's not about you. You are a conduit letting source move through you. When it's all about you people feel that and it's blocking you. Be in the light of the joy of what you're here to bring. It isn't about you and you should be in what lights you up.

I love this. There is a paradox in most things in life, but they don't have to contradict. What you are seeking is seeking you. And what you seek is ultimately connection to source because that's where you find true joy. 

Know that your purpose here in life in deeply connected to your joy, and when you follow your joy you will be of service to the world. 

With all my love,

Helena 

Feeding happiness

There are countless different theories on emotions and how many baseline emotions humans have. One of the most prominent is Robert Plutchik's wheel of emotions that identifies eight basic emotions; joy, sadness, trust, disgust, fear, anger, surprise, and anticipation. More recent studies from Glasgow have narrowed this down further to only four irreducible emotions: happiness, sadness, anger, and fear.

Where wired to look out for trouble. That's how we've survived this far. Out of the four irreducible emotions three would be classified as "negative"; sadness, anger and fear. Whereas happiness is the light energy one. Sadness, anger and fear will all visit us from time to time during the course of our lifetime, we don't need to feed them. We need to feed happiness though, some say we even have to work for it.

It's not a race or a competition, still, we need to make conscious choices of where we want to wander when we're at baseline in our lives, when things just move along. How do you feed your happiness? Do you know what actions, people and circumstances help you get there more often? We don't need to run from the uncomfortable emotions, but we certainly don't need to chase them either, they always find us. 

I realize more and more that what I actually work with is mental training. In myself and in my clients. We program the brain to track and look for happiness, in the small things in life. Maybe I can help you too? 

With all my love,

Helena 

When hope hurts

I've written about this so many times, because it used to be a big theme in my life.

I was trying so hard not to hope or wish for the best because I thought the hurt of the disappointment was too hard to bear. I would start expecting the worst, to not get hurt. I would withhold on joy out of fear of vulnerability. Not realizing I was withholding life by doing this. And without understanding that, no matter my precautions, sometimes life hurts. We can't vaccinate against it. 

In the contract of life, pain is part. Our best defense is living our life where it is right now, being optimistic about the future. The worst thing that can happen is that we have been happy for no real reason. But in doing this, we prepare ourselves for pain. We don't prepare by expecting the worst or by being pessimistic about the future. That's just a recipe for draining ourselves. 

Don't let hope hurt you. It's not hope that does that. It's expectations shattered. We need to expect the best. And if it doesn't happen, we need to accept what is. So do hope, do joy, do optimism. You can deal with anything and heal from whatever. 

With all my love,
Helena