happiness

Be here now, still

Have you ever experienced achieving one of your big goals in life? Was it all that you expected it to be? 

I talked to a friend the other week who highlighted this yet again for me. She had strived for a big goal everyday for four years until she finally reached where she had dreamed of being. Once there, depression came. Even though reaching the goal was amazing in many ways it didn't solve everything. All areas in her life was not magically transformed by reaching the goal but there was an unconscious expectation of this because it had been her whole focus for so long. 

There is no there there. I know I say this all the time but it's so true. Sure, look ahead and work for the things you want but don't attach your happiness or attachment to it. Be here now, still. Fulfillment only happens in the present moment anyway. 

With all my love,
Helena

Everything is progress. Progress equals happiness.

What if this is true? Does it ring true to you? 

If everything happens for a reason, if there's a meaning to every event, then everything is progress. What if we are here to grow and learn and all experiences help us do just that, then we're always progressing in our development. 

Advancement in our soul is what we're here for, that's what makes our soul happy, advancement is progress. Therefore progress equals happiness. 

What do you think? 

I don't know that this is true, but I like to believe it is. We will never know anything for certain as long as we are here, that's one of the perks or pitfalls of life, so, we might as well decide what we want to believe. 

I believe we all have an ego mind that plays a lot of tricks on us. I believe we have a soul that is so much wiser. Sometimes we mix them up. That's okay. We're all human. It's all progress. Progress equals happiness. 

With all my love,

Helena 

Feeding happiness

There are countless different theories on emotions and how many baseline emotions humans have. One of the most prominent is Robert Plutchik's wheel of emotions that identifies eight basic emotions; joy, sadness, trust, disgust, fear, anger, surprise, and anticipation. More recent studies from Glasgow have narrowed this down further to only four irreducible emotions: happiness, sadness, anger, and fear.

Where wired to look out for trouble. That's how we've survived this far. Out of the four irreducible emotions three would be classified as "negative"; sadness, anger and fear. Whereas happiness is the light energy one. Sadness, anger and fear will all visit us from time to time during the course of our lifetime, we don't need to feed them. We need to feed happiness though, some say we even have to work for it.

It's not a race or a competition, still, we need to make conscious choices of where we want to wander when we're at baseline in our lives, when things just move along. How do you feed your happiness? Do you know what actions, people and circumstances help you get there more often? We don't need to run from the uncomfortable emotions, but we certainly don't need to chase them either, they always find us. 

I realize more and more that what I actually work with is mental training. In myself and in my clients. We program the brain to track and look for happiness, in the small things in life. Maybe I can help you too? 

With all my love,

Helena 

Stop striving for happiness

In the pursuit of happiness. I'm all in this with you. I write about it sometimes and I talk about it often. But it's not all about happiness. It's also about living. 

What if the goal would be feeling alive rather than feeling happy? What if we're in this human experience to do just that, living, no matter what that entails. 

You know what that they say; people rather be hated than ignored because that means someone actually care enough to have an opinion at all. The same way we might rather feel really tough feelings than feeling nothing at all. 

We're here to live and to experience and that sometimes means rough patches, that's alright, we're still living through them. There's no failure in being unhappy, it's part of the human condition to sometimes feel this way. What's closer to a failure is not living at all, because then we missed the purpose of the whole thing. 

So, embrace life, feel whatever you need to feel. And maybe you'll notice, that happiness comes to visit a little more often, when you stop resisting what's far from it.

With all my love,

Helena