Deliberate living

This is a recurring theme in my life right now, as so here on the blog. Living deliberately. 

When you focus first on how you want to feel and learn how to create those emotions in your life, you can't fail. If you then act and don't reach the outcome you wanted it really doesn't matter as much because you felt the way you wanted to feel to begin with. Default living, as Jess Lively calls it, is when we act and wait for the outcome to decide how we get to feel and that's when we're always depending on outer circumstances of which we have very little control. 

The added bonus when you live deliberately is that when you first feel the way you want to feel you automatically attract more of what you want. Congrats! 

With all my love,

Feeling machines

I heard Cheryl Strayed in an interview say this and I totally agree: "We're feeling machines who knows how to think, not thinking machines who knows how to feel." That's where we got it all wrong, thinking our feelings are just a bi-product and our left brain thinking gets center stage. 

I know I talk about this a lot right now but it is what's going on a lot for me. And that's where I always start writing, that's why I write in the first place. To process, reflect and analyze what's going on in my own life. Hopefully it speaks to you too. 

We think we make logical decisions but most of them are driven by emotions. We believe that we can objectively assess a situation when everything in our life is highly subjectively processed. 

How do we navigate this logically centered world where we actually don't fit in? Well, one way for me is to let my intuition lead the way (often speaking through emotions) and then find logical arguments for one or the other decision. While most of our 35 000 decisions a day are obviously unconscious and driven by our subjective past and emotional memories. 

We're not going to change our societal structure in one full sweep, but I do see a lot of hubs of different thinking, or I should probably say, different feeling. It's a paradigm shift of enormous proportions, but I'm certain that we'll see a very different world in the future. One where emotions are regarded for what they really are and a world where all of humanity (and everything living on this earth) fits better in. 

With all my love,


Stop striving for happiness

In the pursuit of happiness. I'm all in this with you. I write about it sometimes and I talk about it often. But it's not all about happiness. It's also about living. 

What if the goal would be feeling alive rather than feeling happy? What if we're in this human experience to do just that, living, no matter what that entails. 

You know what that they say; people rather be hated than ignored because that means someone actually care enough to have an opinion at all. The same way we might rather feel really tough feelings than feeling nothing at all. 

We're here to live and to experience and that sometimes means rough patches, that's alright, we're still living through them. There's no failure in being unhappy, it's part of the human condition to sometimes feel this way. What's closer to a failure is not living at all, because then we missed the purpose of the whole thing. 

So, embrace life, feel whatever you need to feel. And maybe you'll notice, that happiness comes to visit a little more often, when you stop resisting what's far from it.

With all my love,


Ask for what you want

Every thought you think is a request to the universe. If you believe in the law of attraction this is how it works. Or, not exactly, you need to trigger the emotion of what you want, not only think it. But still, focusing on lack, attracts more lack. 

We don't need to be in full positive thinking every waking hour of the day, because that's not realistic, we're human after all. But in your "in-between" time, when you're not upset about something and neither super happy, watch your thoughts and emotions triggered by them. 

As long as you keep on focusing on the job you're not happy with, the relationship you don't have or the money you're lacking, this is what you're attracting more of. Spend your downtime daydreaming about all your dreams coming true. Re-align yourself by appreciating the small stuff in your everyday life and take a dip in the gratitude jacuzzi.

Watch your mind as it wanders and redirect it to an abundance mindset. This is true, there is enough for everyone! Ask for what you want and act as if it's already yours. 

With all my love,