appreciation

Don't let your ego take over

We all have ego. It's neither good or bad, it just is. But we don't want our ego to run the show all together. 

I did a high profile project recently. Right after I felt a sting of disappointment with myself. My ego laser focusing on the details I could have done differently. The things I should or shouldn't have said. So tiring. I realized this was my ego being caught up in a loop, chewing on its favorite chew toy, my performance and perfection. 

So, I deliberately chose to change focus. What was the feedback from the audience? How did my client feel about my delivery? Did I help someone? And foremost, did I do my best from my current circumstances? Was I aligned with my intuition? Was I acting out of love? Genuine appreciation, happy, yes, yes yes, yes. 

Your ego is there and will always be, but practice witnessing it, and, if it's all you learn to do, don't believe every word it says! 

With all my love,

Helena 

Here's an experiment for you

If you follow me on social media you know I'm currently doing a wonderful course with Jess Lively. It's all about flowing with intention, law of attraction and alignment. It's life changing in many ways. If you would choose to go down this path, it's a total paradigm shift. 

We're used to wait for things to happen to get to feel what we want to feel. According to the law of attraction (which is also scientifically proven at this point) we need to reverse this order. First, you feel what you want to feel, then things start happening - the things you want that is. Because, you attract what you are. 

For the next couple of days, try this: get into alignment before you do anything. Alignment is basically feeling great. (And, if you're in a rut right now, don't sweat it, be compassionate with yourself and try this another time.) Make sure that the first things you do in the morning are things that you love and that makes you happy. If it means you need to get up a bit earlier to have time for what you love, then go ahead and get to bed earlier. If you can't come up with anything, try a rampage of appreciation, meaning writing out things that you are grateful for (preferably 5 pages of it). 

Watch how your day unfolds when you've taken charge of your initial state. Let me know how it goes! 

Change your expectations for appreciation

Christmas is upon us. So much pressure on only a few days. Things don't always go as planned, or  as we might have wished for. The food taste bad. Someone got sick. There's conflict in the middle of celebrations. The kids are unhappy with their gifts. You feel extra lonely. There's more rain than snow. That annoying relative is more annoying than usual. You have a headache. 

Sorry to be a bummer day before Christmas, but hey, just trying to rid your expectations. Skip them. Trade them for appreciation. That smile on a loved ones face. The piece of chocolate that just melted in your mouth. The lights in the dark. The wonderful smell of childhood memories. A warm hug. The stillness before everyone arrives. That song you love. 

It might all be there, at the same time. You decide where you put your focus. Change your expectations for appreciation.

With all my love,

Helena