Fear is love waiting to exhale

I'm so sorry I don't remember where I heard this but I really love it. What if fear is not the opposite to love? What if there is no opposite to love at all? What if love is all there is and sometimes it's just withheld or delayed for whatever reason? What if fear is just love waiting to exhale? 

Life is like the breath; the ugly with the beautiful; the tough parts with the ease; the in- and out. Without our judgements it's all the same. All important. All unimportant. Fear is not the absence of love, but just a block we create when we're blinded by the light, not feeling deserving or too caught up in the worldly drama. 

This thought truly soothes me. I want to stay there. What about you? 

With all my love,

Helena 

What if every thought you think would come true?

I truly believe in the law of attraction and I think science is catching up too. Whatever we focus on grows. It's all energy. We attract what we are, not what we think. And still, we are what we repeatedly do. We do what we repeatedly think. Are you aware of the climate in your own mind? 

What if every thought you think would come true? Would you like the outcome? 

We have around 65 000 thoughts a day and up to 95% of them are the same as yesterday. Most of them are autopilot thoughts and thus low in energy. What we focus on grows. What we don't focus on, like autopilot thoughts, are just, eah. So, just start noticing where your energy goes when you think. What lights you up? What makes you mad? What frustrates you? What excites you? Do you want all of that or do you want to start redirecting some of your high energy thoughts to that which you actually do want manifested in your life? 

Just some food for thought. I'm gonna watch my thoughts today, and refocus when I need to. 

With all my love,

Helena 

Don't wait for confidence before you act

It's not you waiting that will give you the confidence you want, it's you acting. It's by doing the things that scare you that you realize you can get confident. It's not the other way around. 

I love how Mastin Kipp puts it:

If you're not in mortal danger, fear is a compass showing you where to go. 

You don't have to of course, it's always up to you. But if you want to live the life of your dreams, you've got to dare to be the person you need to be to live that dream. If the life of your dreams is inside your comfort zone then stay, if it's something else, get going. Move, and try, and dare, and you'll notice with time, what once scared you is now easy-peasy and what was once totally in your risk zone is now only a light stretch. Act how you want to feel and the confidence is just an added bonus.

With all my love,

Helena 

We all have self-worth issues

I heard the brilliant JP Sears say this:

"There are two different kinds of people in this world; those of us who have self-worth issues, and those of us who are in denial of having self-worth issues. It makes us human."

I do believe that this is true. Whatever issue we have in life, when we really drill down to it, we always get to the same root, self-worth. Either we deny ourselves love because we don't believe we deserve it or we deny others love because we believe we need to prove our worth by positioning ourselves against others. Whatever the case we're choosing fear over love and that's always what hurts us and other people. 

If we could just all remember that this is part of the human condition and whenever we do something to hurt ourselves or others, it's because of our own self-worth issues, we might stop resisting it and start working towards loving ourselves and others a little more freely. 

Are you aware of your self-worth issues and actively working on resolving them whenever they show up in your life or are you in denial? Let's all work on it together. 

With all my love,

Helena 

Everything is progress. Progress equals happiness.

What if this is true? Does it ring true to you? 

If everything happens for a reason, if there's a meaning to every event, then everything is progress. What if we are here to grow and learn and all experiences help us do just that, then we're always progressing in our development. 

Advancement in our soul is what we're here for, that's what makes our soul happy, advancement is progress. Therefore progress equals happiness. 

What do you think? 

I don't know that this is true, but I like to believe it is. We will never know anything for certain as long as we are here, that's one of the perks or pitfalls of life, so, we might as well decide what we want to believe. 

I believe we all have an ego mind that plays a lot of tricks on us. I believe we have a soul that is so much wiser. Sometimes we mix them up. That's okay. We're all human. It's all progress. Progress equals happiness. 

With all my love,

Helena 

Use these three powerful questions on yourself

Where am I today? 

Where do I want to be? 

What's stopping me? 

These are three really powerful questions that can get you a long way on your own. Sure, a coach will help you by reflecting back and drilling down to the root by asking more questions, but still, you can get far with just these. Here's an example for you:

Where am I today?

I'm not happy with my job and really want a more fulfilling profession. 

Where do I want to be? 

I'd like to wake up Monday morning feeling like I really long to get to work and get started. I want to feel like what I do really matter. I want to get challenge and support in a good balance. I want to have the freedom to be creative. 

What's stopping me? 

  • I don't know what work could be that fulfilling.
  • I'm afraid of changing careers and what if I fail.
  • I don't know what my passion is. 

So, there you have it. Next steps are generally defined, although they might need to be a bit more specific. Remember, your obstacles are not really obstacles, but to-do's, so get to work. Research different careers and talk with family and friends, work on your self-esteem or get a coach to help you figure out your passion. It's all there. You know what you need to do. 

With all my love,

Helena 

When you're bored, do this!

One of my favorite pastimes when I'm bored is to make lists in my head of all the things I'm grateful for. When in line, in a traffic jam, waiting for a friend. Once you get warmed up, you will probably be so fully filled with appreciation for all the awesomeness in your life that you'll be able to take a dip in the awesome gratitude jacuzzi. 

Is there any better way to pass the time? 

Watch where your mind wanders and you might realize why your life is the way it is. Make conscious decisions about where you direct it and you'll create more of the things you're really grateful for. Give it a try! 

With all my love,
Helena

You attract what you are, not what you want

You knew this. But in the face of a new year I think we all need a reminder. Sure, daily action. Sure, goals with soul. Sure, small, daily steps. Sure, action speaks louder than words. But still, the law of attraction looks at what is. Who are you today? Are you ready for everything you've ever dreamed of? If it all showed up today, would you be fit to receive it? 

Focus rather on being what you want to receive than simply wanting it. If you want to be a successful entrepreneur - how would you be? If you want to go to that dream destination - how would you be? If you want that relationship - how would you be? How would you be once you're at your goal? Then go be just that, right now. 

With all my love,

Helena